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Apr. 20th, 2003 05:42 pmThere's been something of an insurrection among several of the members of CUUPS. For me, this is the final straw; rather than choosing to talk to Dee and James and I as friends, they have allowed their resentment to build up, complaining amongst themselves, offering only criticism and vitriol.
I thought these people were my friends. That's what really hurts about this. Friends would never be so catty and ungrateful.
It doesn't matter to them that Dee has been routinely driven to tears from the stress of dealing with not only our "friends" in CUUPS but also the First Church board of trustees and staff, which (with the exception of the minister) have become markedly hostile to our presence. It doesn't matter that Dee is still recovering from illness and surgery almost two years ago. It doesn't matter that James is still mourning the loss of his mother.
Accusing Dee and James of being on a "power trip" is absolutely ludicrous. To be on a power trip there has to be "power" to trip on. There is no power; only stress. Given the chance to voice any objections they have, in person, during meetings, on the elist, they have remained sullenly silent, never giving us the opportunity to lead effectively. Instead of offering alternatives to something they didn't like, they have only torn things down.
I can't stand to watch any more of it.
If they think they can do better, more power to them. I wish them luck and long, happy lives.
I have been advising Dee and James for months to resign as coordinators. Their mental and physical health has been pushed almost to the breaking point by taking on the thankless task. I think now this last stab in the back has pushed them over the line into pure bitterness. They've been saying that they will announce their resignation Thursday, to which I replied I would kick them if they don't. Compassion demands it; I would be remiss as husband to Dee and friend to James if I did otherwise.
I thought these people were my friends. That's what really hurts about this. Friends would never be so catty and ungrateful.
It doesn't matter to them that Dee has been routinely driven to tears from the stress of dealing with not only our "friends" in CUUPS but also the First Church board of trustees and staff, which (with the exception of the minister) have become markedly hostile to our presence. It doesn't matter that Dee is still recovering from illness and surgery almost two years ago. It doesn't matter that James is still mourning the loss of his mother.
Accusing Dee and James of being on a "power trip" is absolutely ludicrous. To be on a power trip there has to be "power" to trip on. There is no power; only stress. Given the chance to voice any objections they have, in person, during meetings, on the elist, they have remained sullenly silent, never giving us the opportunity to lead effectively. Instead of offering alternatives to something they didn't like, they have only torn things down.
I can't stand to watch any more of it.
If they think they can do better, more power to them. I wish them luck and long, happy lives.
I have been advising Dee and James for months to resign as coordinators. Their mental and physical health has been pushed almost to the breaking point by taking on the thankless task. I think now this last stab in the back has pushed them over the line into pure bitterness. They've been saying that they will announce their resignation Thursday, to which I replied I would kick them if they don't. Compassion demands it; I would be remiss as husband to Dee and friend to James if I did otherwise.
