Speaking from my own experience, it's incredibly difficult not to get defensive when someone else is in any way making a complaint against something one identifies with.
Yeah. It's hard. I wonder if anything like this could feasibly happen without facilitators to keep it from devolving into a fruitless shouting match.
The shouting matches are going to happen anyway. Suppose half, or two thirds, or three fourths, of the pairs never get past the shouting match stage. That still leaves a number of people who get to the heart of the common humanity they share with everyone in that room.
In one way or another, "peace" is what happens when human beings decide to make the best of co-existing. They begin to trade and labor together. Their children meet and fall in love, and suddenly they are in-laws.
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Date: 2009-02-24 09:09 pm (UTC)Yeah. It's hard. I wonder if anything like this could feasibly happen without facilitators to keep it from devolving into a fruitless shouting match.
The shouting matches are going to happen anyway. Suppose half, or two thirds, or three fourths, of the pairs never get past the shouting match stage. That still leaves a number of people who get to the heart of the common humanity they share with everyone in that room.
In one way or another, "peace" is what happens when human beings decide to make the best of co-existing. They begin to trade and labor together. Their children meet and fall in love, and suddenly they are in-laws.