The Serpent's Wisdom

I've been thinking for the last year or two about sexual ethics, because when I became Christian I felt like I needed to have defined views of some sort...for multiple reasons that should be pretty obvious, the literalist "no lust or sex outside marriage, only one, straight, marriage per person, and it's better to be celibate anyway" isn't something I'm signing onto, but I feel like it still needs to be taken seriously somehow. I think this is the best, most eloquent pointer toward better ways to think about it that I've had in a long time. Thank you.