Yeah. Sometimes I think that bullshit is to help people get over the fear of it happening again. So if they decide to do things "differently" then they "have nothing to be afraid of" and can get over the terrified and work on moving on. Getting over the terrified is good. But not in that way. It is a lie. One can do everything to protect themself and still get preyed upon. Or one can make themselves as vulnerable as possible and have nothing happen. The only accountable person is the one who commits harm. And short of force there is no way to control the actions of the other. The "how are you accountable" is nothing but trying to give a sense of control back to someone - when really there are many things an individual has no control over. And the price for a false sense of control is accepting a dumpster truck full of unnecessary guilt. Not a worthwhile trade at all.
I am a firm believer in the fact that there are no helpful lies. Well, outside of the ones we tell to help ourself. Telling others a lie in order to help them - never helpful to the other. The other believes a lie and it will bite them on the ass.
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Date: 2006-08-30 09:06 am (UTC)I am a firm believer in the fact that there are no helpful lies. Well, outside of the ones we tell to help ourself. Telling others a lie in order to help them - never helpful to the other. The other believes a lie and it will bite them on the ass.