Every time I try to point out the virulent misogyny endemic in mainstream porn, people think I am saying the same thing too. It is very frustrating. I was thinking earlier today about how lots of anti-0feminists insist feminists hate sex, and I came to a disturbing theory on why - people who say that really think rape is the same thing as sex, and so rape can't be bad because it gets them laid, and so anyone trying to work to stop rape hates sex. Rape fantasies are very different from actual rapes. The "victim" in the fantasies is actually in absolute, complete control of what happens. Even in "take down scenes", things is usually worked out very carefully beforehand and some sort of cool down or aftercare happens. It is nothing like having some jerk deciding that since you had a drink or two too many or no one is around to stop him he is entitled to take whatever he wants.
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Date: 2005-09-26 10:17 pm (UTC)I was thinking earlier today about how lots of anti-0feminists insist feminists hate sex, and I came to a disturbing theory on why - people who say that really think rape is the same thing as sex, and so rape can't be bad because it gets them laid, and so anyone trying to work to stop rape hates sex.
Rape fantasies are very different from actual rapes. The "victim" in the fantasies is actually in absolute, complete control of what happens. Even in "take down scenes", things is usually worked out very carefully beforehand and some sort of cool down or aftercare happens. It is nothing like having some jerk deciding that since you had a drink or two too many or no one is around to stop him he is entitled to take whatever he wants.