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challenging_god. Sorry for any dupes.
New studies show homosexuality or bisexuality may be caused largely by what pheromone receptors we possess. Male-to-female transsexuals have areas in their brains related to sexual behavior more like those of women than those of men. And on. And on. The evidence mounts.
Like it or not, we are born this way. It was not a choice, or I would have been able to choose to make my heterosexual marriage of 11 years work.
I write to you today a broken person. My marriage is now ending -- something I did not just because I loved the woman I married, but because I felt it was good and right to attempt to live as my family and society dictated that I should. The way religion dictates that I should.
And now I can only try to make sense of my pain, her pain, and the pain of millions of people who have faced the reality of finding themselves in a mixed-orientation marriage. And what I conclude is this: clergy who push people into denying their true nature and living in sham marriages are responsible for incredible amounts of suffering. Furthermore, the more we learn about the ways in which homosexuality and transgenderism are rooted in the workings of our bodies, the closer the actions of those clergymembers come to being evil.
My wife and I tried for years to make it work. Counseling. Psychiatry. Psych meds. Our problems did not stem just from my sexuality and gender identity. But these issues were a catalyst for much of our pain.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. My intentions were good, and yet I have still brought myself and, unwittingly, another human being, through years of hell. People who promote the idea that homosexuality is a choice also have good intentions.
challenging_god. Sorry for any dupes.New studies show homosexuality or bisexuality may be caused largely by what pheromone receptors we possess. Male-to-female transsexuals have areas in their brains related to sexual behavior more like those of women than those of men. And on. And on. The evidence mounts.
Like it or not, we are born this way. It was not a choice, or I would have been able to choose to make my heterosexual marriage of 11 years work.
I write to you today a broken person. My marriage is now ending -- something I did not just because I loved the woman I married, but because I felt it was good and right to attempt to live as my family and society dictated that I should. The way religion dictates that I should.
And now I can only try to make sense of my pain, her pain, and the pain of millions of people who have faced the reality of finding themselves in a mixed-orientation marriage. And what I conclude is this: clergy who push people into denying their true nature and living in sham marriages are responsible for incredible amounts of suffering. Furthermore, the more we learn about the ways in which homosexuality and transgenderism are rooted in the workings of our bodies, the closer the actions of those clergymembers come to being evil.
My wife and I tried for years to make it work. Counseling. Psychiatry. Psych meds. Our problems did not stem just from my sexuality and gender identity. But these issues were a catalyst for much of our pain.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions. My intentions were good, and yet I have still brought myself and, unwittingly, another human being, through years of hell. People who promote the idea that homosexuality is a choice also have good intentions.
