for kyrene

In a reply to my entry yesterday, kyrene wrote, I never saw the point of poly-marriages anyway. What's the point of marrying them? Might as well just "go steady".

This is an excellent question. Let me give you a practical answer from my own life. Being poly saved my marriage and vastly improved our satisfaction.

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on the mundane front

I actually spent $40 in a totally frivolous manner yesterday. As tight as things have been, I felt actual guilt over doing this. I bought a commercial costume so that I would have the finishing accessories I need for the French Maid costume -- I wasn't able to find these separately. These will continue to come in handy after Halloween, as this is a good "weapon" in the tranny-sub arsenal. I also bought a copy of Starcraft. Nice game, but I don't see myself becoming addicted to it like Call to Power II.

For a long time I had feared I would be jealous when Alex and JJ finally met the second husband they've been seeking for 7 years. I long felt I was born to be that person, and it took some time for me to find peace when it became clear that JJ would never see me that way. But, you know, outside of a few moments of seeing green when I first heard the news, I'm actually very happy for them. It is no loss for me at all, and who knows, maybe he will like me too! I'm excited about meeting him tomorrow. If he stole their hearts, he must be a special person.

I think I'm going to ask my new interest if she would like to see "Secretary" with me Friday. A group of friends from NOBLE are going, and maybe she would be interested in going as my date. It's too early to tell what will happen with her or if I can really even get my hopes up.

Even if she brought romantic possibilities to a halt I just like being around her. TBH I mainly hope she wants to kiss me again -- a lot. I didn't realize there was an absence in my life, being without a good makeout partner, and she is such a good kisser. Dee doesn't like to kiss at all.

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Now if I was a holy man,
And you were the devil's song,
And if I liked what you played,
Does that mean you're right and I'm wrong?
--Seal, "When a man is wrong"

When there is a difference of opinion, especially between two ideas that seem mutually exclusive, the challenge is not to find out who is "right" or who is "wrong." The challenge is not to take one side and research the question and argue forcefully for it.

The real challenge is finding the "third option" that underlines the differences and similarities of both positions, and represents something everyone can stand behind. Not a "compromise," but a genuine third option.

What I have found is that usually a little bit of searching, a mixture of thinking outside the box and rational thought can usually bring to light a third option, even in a seemingly impossible difference of opinion.

Another crucial ingredient in this is the ability to listen with compassion to all people.