This is very interesting, and I agree. I've made the argument elsewhere that "proper" gender performance and heterosexuality are so closely linked in the United States that those who fall into the category of queer sexuality are actually transgressing on the same vector -- although not to the same extent -- as openly transgendered, genderqueer, and transsexual people.
Other ways of not being "properly female" or "properly male" are, as Sophiaserpentia pointed out, things like refusing to wear skirts for a woman (or shave your legs! Quelle horreur!) or wearing chandelier earrings for a man -- both of these things impact gender. However, they're not the same thing as completely moving from one gender pole to the other.
Part of the problem, of course, is the (still persistent) idea that there is a "proper" way to be female or male.
I like your proposed double terminology; I think it helps get at some of the complexities of gender choices a little more closely. I do think that it's not a binary, though: I think that gender tends to be more of an arc of individual (constrained) choices.
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Other ways of not being "properly female" or "properly male" are, as Sophiaserpentia pointed out, things like refusing to wear skirts for a woman (or shave your legs! Quelle horreur!) or wearing chandelier earrings for a man -- both of these things impact gender. However, they're not the same thing as completely moving from one gender pole to the other.
Part of the problem, of course, is the (still persistent) idea that there is a "proper" way to be female or male.
I like your proposed double terminology; I think it helps get at some of the complexities of gender choices a little more closely. I do think that it's not a binary, though: I think that gender tends to be more of an arc of individual (constrained) choices.