I'm a big fan of affinity politics and would rather preach affinity over identity - not least because i'm tired of identity-based divisiveness between people who otherwise have much more in common than not - but even within the queer community there is not uniformity of belief, experience, or need. Embracing that diversity means, among other things, expressing it.

Unfortunately, human politics are very predictable. As soon as you start to paint over the differences between people in a group, those with diverging experience within the group start feeling pressured to silence themselves for the good of all.