i hope you didn't think i was accusing you of being short-sighted about this...
Discussions like this tend to put people in a very defensive headspace and i was hoping you didn't think i am insensitive to your situation.
i'm not even really overly-upset or wracked with guilt (most of the time), just feeling kind of lost and tired at times when i think about the connections and associations that my own fantasies play into, and how i *do* wish i could be different sometimes... just snap my fingers and be cookie-cutter squeaky clean with regards to my sexual appetites....
I feel bad that stating my ideas about these connections has that effect on you, it is not my intent to contribute in any way, even by accident, to what has already been done to you. This is a difficult subject to discuss without making those who have been most affected to feel as though they are being set upon yet again.
I have some idea how you feel... i can't count how many times i wished i could snap my fingers and make my gender identity or sexuality normal, thinking about how much happier i would be if i could.
Re: consenting to rape-fantasies.
Discussions like this tend to put people in a very defensive headspace and i was hoping you didn't think i am insensitive to your situation.
i'm not even really overly-upset or wracked with guilt (most of the time), just feeling kind of lost and tired at times when i think about the connections and associations that my own fantasies play into, and how i *do* wish i could be different sometimes... just snap my fingers and be cookie-cutter squeaky clean with regards to my sexual appetites....
I feel bad that stating my ideas about these connections has that effect on you, it is not my intent to contribute in any way, even by accident, to what has already been done to you. This is a difficult subject to discuss without making those who have been most affected to feel as though they are being set upon yet again.
I have some idea how you feel... i can't count how many times i wished i could snap my fingers and make my gender identity or sexuality normal, thinking about how much happier i would be if i could.