What about the consent to be overpowered? Or the consent to be heavily persuaded?
I'm not sure what you're asking. I have no problem with consentual adult sex in any form. This isn't me being "prudish" and saying people shouldn't have rape fantasies, or that people shouldn't act them out.
I've had plenty of fun hog-tying people of both genders, myself... and having it done to me.
It's me saying that i do not believe a society without sexism, without racism, without homophobia, would see large percentages of people sexualizing their experiences of degredation.
I respectfully disagree about all expressions of power being related to gender. That would nearly mean that homosexuals have vanilla sex.
What i mean is that expressions of power in any dealings between two people are inextricably tied to the ubiquity of power relations in their culture. Sexism, racism, classism, and homophobia are in my mind variations on the same theme -- which is why i use the word kyriarchy instead of patriarchy. So i am not saying that power relations are a man/woman thing, but that our society's understanding of what it means to be a man or to be a woman cannot be removed from kyriarchy in our culture.
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I'm not sure what you're asking. I have no problem with consentual adult sex in any form. This isn't me being "prudish" and saying people shouldn't have rape fantasies, or that people shouldn't act them out.
I've had plenty of fun hog-tying people of both genders, myself... and having it done to me.
It's me saying that i do not believe a society without sexism, without racism, without homophobia, would see large percentages of people sexualizing their experiences of degredation.
I respectfully disagree about all expressions of power being related to gender. That would nearly mean that homosexuals have vanilla sex.
What i mean is that expressions of power in any dealings between two people are inextricably tied to the ubiquity of power relations in their culture. Sexism, racism, classism, and homophobia are in my mind variations on the same theme -- which is why i use the word kyriarchy instead of patriarchy. So i am not saying that power relations are a man/woman thing, but that our society's understanding of what it means to be a man or to be a woman cannot be removed from kyriarchy in our culture.