Yes, here is one of those areas where idealism comes up against pragmatism. Rape itself is a hate crime committed against those who are insufficiently masculine -- and rape fantasies are evidence of internalized sexism (or perhaps internalized homophobia, when they occur in men).

Even so, it is tricky to just say that rape fantasies are wrong, period, because many, many women have them, and each woman who does deserves to enjoy her sexuality without her needs being marginalized as pathological. One might say that simply suppressing rape fantasies altogether is a way of punishing women for their femininity a second time -- after their sex drive has already been coupled with the social ubiquity of rape.

I don't have an easy answer for that. But it seems to me that i would feel more comfortable with rape-fantasy depictions that were directed by women.