No, just seeking to understand point by point where we see eye-to-eye and where we start to diverge.

I see a big problem with the way our society addresses the issue of abuse and discrimination. Typically that response comes down to focusing on the victims and ask what it is about them that makes people more likely to abuse them, when really, we should be asking why the abusers abuse. The net implication of this is that we take for granted that some people are just inclined to abuse others.

For example, we frequently see abused spouses asked, "Why do you stay?" when the real question should be, "Why are you hitting someone you claim you love?" This attitude goes all throughout our way of dealing with abuse. Victims of bullying at school are told that if they were "more normal" they wouldn't be bullied, and basically the same thing is said to gay people.