We have to separate ourselves to go to the bathroom, the high-school football team versus the volleyball team, seemingly gender-specific toys for babies, etc.
That trend drives me insane. I did not understand it when I was six (can't remember any earlier than that) and still don't.
I think it's because deep down the boys are scared of the girls. It may seem simplistic and childish, and they'll never admit it as such, but it's the only thing that really explains a lot of things I see go on. For example, in the Leather/BDSM Scene, you'll have a gay male club or organization. They have no problem (obviously) playing together. But the moment they go pansexual and the het couples and lesbians start coming in, the gay boys run away (generally to go and set up their own boys only, no girls allowed "clubhouse" somewhere else). It's sad really, because they often have some of the most knowledgeable players and intense and moving scenes you'll ever see in the BDSM scene.
Now I understand the need for safe gendered space (one of the reasons I won't go to women's only events, even though I self identify as feminine), but a lot of them end only hanging out at the boys only places.
And it's not just the BDSM scene either. Look at the challenges that were involved with getting the military to accept women or how uncomfortable some guys get when their girl friends are just as much into sports or video games as they are.
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That trend drives me insane. I did not understand it when I was six (can't remember any earlier than that) and still don't.
I think it's because deep down the boys are scared of the girls. It may seem simplistic and childish, and they'll never admit it as such, but it's the only thing that really explains a lot of things I see go on. For example, in the Leather/BDSM Scene, you'll have a gay male club or organization. They have no problem (obviously) playing together. But the moment they go pansexual and the het couples and lesbians start coming in, the gay boys run away (generally to go and set up their own boys only, no girls allowed "clubhouse" somewhere else). It's sad really, because they often have some of the most knowledgeable players and intense and moving scenes you'll ever see in the BDSM scene.
Now I understand the need for safe gendered space (one of the reasons I won't go to women's only events, even though I self identify as feminine), but a lot of them end only hanging out at the boys only places.
And it's not just the BDSM scene either. Look at the challenges that were involved with getting the military to accept women or how uncomfortable some guys get when their girl friends are just as much into sports or video games as they are.