also I think why women often feel defeated and men victorious after sex, because the woman has briefly taken on the role of time and space and been defeated, while for the man, all time and space has briefly become his kingdom.

Actually I would call any reaction to sex that does not cultivate a feeling of equality between partners, to be an impulse that favors the archontic influence that hates flesh. Thus I think that the "archons" favor this impression and promote it.

Zoology tells us that males compete for the chance to mate, and then the victorious male must persuade or coerce the waiting female. I wonder though to what extent our conditioning reads into what is going on.

Sex is not a "victory" of male over female, but people are encultured to think that way. If a woman feels defeated afterwards, she is not inclined to feel closer to the man with whom she was just intimate. She will in the future feel more guarded and less inclined to be open.

Riane Eisler had an interesting thought. What if the vagina were described culturally as a force that conquers by surrounding and overwhelming? Or as a "genetrix" that envelops and surrounds with life-giving warmth?


I literally forget what I've got sometimes

Me too. I like when that happens. :-D